Even though I grew up going to church twice on Sunday and also on Wednesday nights, small groups and personal or group bible study was a concept I adopted more as an adult Christian. What a difference it makes as I try to take on the challenge of a daily walk with Christ. The fellowship, encouragement, challenge and knowledge that we share together as a group provides such a huge resource in my life that I wouldn't have without it.
Although our name "BAM" (Be-A-Man) is a little tongue-in-cheek as we kind of play off the first book we read together, I do have both the desire and feel the burden of being a "man" in my many roles in life, the man God wants me to be. Our group shares that desire and that burden and it's such a blessing to have Godly men in my life who will walk that road together. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." In the fight we're in to be the men God wants us to be, it is best to be in it together.
“Spiritual warfare is a real thing. Someone once told me that the Devil is on a limited budget though. He uses cheap tricks like isolation, guilt and shame to keep men trapped in their sin. The Lord, on the other hand, uses the bonds of brotherhood to bring our secret compartments into the light where they lose their hold on us. It took me a long, long time to finally realize that if I am going to grow up and really pursue Christ-like relationships in my marriage, with my children and others, then I have to deal with my true self, warts and all. That means talking about it – out loud – with other men! My small group has meant the world to me because they listen, provide feedback and encouragement, don’t judge, and love me - warts and all.”
Chris is an active member at Memorial Drive Presbyterian Church (MDPC), Assistant General Counsel at PROS, husband to Mary, dad to three amazing kiddos, and is a graduate of Duke University and the University of Texas, School of Law .
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The truth about our group is that it was never supposed to exist. We were just supposed to study a Lenten series together in the Spring of 2006 and move on with our lives. 14 years later, I see it differently. We were group of men who had young kids around the same ages but we really didn’t know each other. The part of not knowing each other seems so strange to me now. You see a decade and half of life really changes a man. Luckily, we didn’t have to do it alone. We have celebrated together, prayed together, and we have cried together. We have done life together. In the middle of everything, we have studied God’s word. That is how God shaped our group. One verse at a time the Holy Spirit showed us what it is to be a follower of Christ in this broken world. I thank God for the men in my group today. God clearly knew the plans he had for each of us even if we didn’t see it coming. That seemingly innocent connection had become something bigger than we could have ever imagined. We are humbled by the growth of small groups in the area and are grateful to be part of something far bigger than ourselves.
Lastly, we obviously deal with the same things every group deals with. We have to battle the same passivity that is deeply seated in each of us. 14 years later, we know to do it together. What about you? What are you battling with? I pray that you bring it to God and to your brothers in your group and do life together. Praise be to God that we don’t have to do it alone.
[Chris is an active member at Memorial Drive Presbyterian Church, husband to Meka, dad to two amazing kiddos, and is a graduate of Baylor University. FinD seeks to transform men through Jesus Christ in authentic, weekly fellowship in discipleship. Real Men…Real Discipleship. FinD out more by visiting our website at www.FinDdiscipleship.org or contacting us at info@FinDdiscipleship.org.]
“If you want to reach maximum personal growth and fulfillment in life – it takes God, working thru others, to transform your heart and journey ahead. If you are seeking authentic relationships that you can confidentially share life’s struggles and challenges you are up against – the small group experience will offer beneficial answers you might not realize on your own. In addition to developing close friendships – you will develop a unique strong brotherhood that will be a life-long resource to share, learn, grow, and assist you through very tough personal struggles such as death, divorce, tragedies, addictions, personal sins etc.
It’s one thing to read the Bible or other resources by yourself – but entirely different to have life applications with powerful member testimonies and joint learning along the way – especially from others that have either been thru it, are going thru it, or will go thru it. As guys, we naturally hold our pride shields around us – where the devil thrives and succeeds – and we don’t grow – and even worse – we wallow secretly in our own shame, fear and doubt. This is EXACTLY where God and small groups work best. Small groups emphasize transparency and confidentiality and are vital to the sharing, healing, and growth of the entire group. Trust for all is built over time and incredible Godly growth and transformation is experienced by all – a part of HIS love for all involved.
If you want to be stronger in this world for yourself and for others – especially in the roles as man/husband/father/follower – please join a discipleship small group now! Join a WSGN discipleship group, or if you’re not sure you’re ready for that level of commitment, get a “trial run” small group experience thru your church’s Men’s Life. God may even put it on your heart to form your own Christ centered group. If you’ve never done this before, let go of your fear that you can’t “catch up” or that you might “fall behind”. God will amazingly meet you where you are in life. Discipleship group members have a deep respect that we are all unique and are at different places and moving at different speeds. Come witness iron truly sharpen iron.
“Being part of a men’s group through FinD is the single most impactful component of my spiritual growth.
Every week in ManU we experience a mingling of souls, whereby we are challenged, supported, and encouraged by brothers who share our struggles.
The men in our group have mucked out my house after Harvey, helped me through a difficult back surgery, and been the best dudes to hang out with.
The Lord guides our steps but I truly believe much of this happens through our interactions with like-minded believers. I am so thankful to know these men as they help me live my life for Jesus Christ.”