Three years ago I was introduced to men’s small groups through an annual series called “Men’s Life” at MDPC. Having never participated in a small group before the experience opened my eyes. I learned that as men we all need the opportunity to grow, disciple, and share life with other men who are followers of Christ.
My experience at “Mens Life” and the power of the Holy Spirit prompted me to seek a more permanent mens discipleship opportunity, and that was when I was introduced to Clint and FinD. At the time I did not know what the mission was about and what an impact it would have on my life as a man, husband, and father.
I am blessed to have not only found a small group, but a Life group with FinD and my “Salty Dogs.” This is far more than a Bible study, this is a brotherhood based in Christ. This only works through discipleship, trust, vulnerability, accountability, studying the Word, and actively seeking the Lord.
Over the past two years we have already shared collective experiences and challenges that we all as men will face sometime in our life. I am grateful for each and every one of these men, their love and support, and the daily positive impact that they have on my life.
There are no coincidences, God has a plan for you, lean into and trust that plan.
What about you, do you really want to go this alone?
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” - Proverbs 17:17
"I knew I wanted and need a deeper connection to Christ and solid Christian men. What I didn’t know was exactly how it would come together. I had been in a men’s group at a local church but, it was depth and rawness that I was searching for. Then came my introduction to some fellas I didn’t really know...a group that eventually became the Cross Heirs. My best buddy Clint had begun helping facilitate other men to come together in small groups. I was a little skeptical yet hopeful! June 15, 2012 was the day we as 7 individual men made a covenant to be 1 group committed to each other and, more importantly, to pursuing a stronger relationship with Jesus Christ. I am by nature a very open person (that may be an understatement). I remember Clint grinning and encouraging me to not “scare these guys”. As it turned out, we all opened up at different speeds like peeling back layers of an onion.
During these last 8 years, I have had some of the most difficult trials of my life including legal, financial, and employment crisis. When I was on my knees crying out to the Lord and felt like I had nowhere to turn, I was engulfed by love and support by not only “my guys” in the Cross Heirs but, also others in our extended FinD brotherhood. The strength of the Lord that is magnified by unity of believers is what it’s all about for us! I truly could not have weathered the storms of this life without the support and relationship that my small group of brothers have shared with me. It is a critical aspect of my life. In 2020, I moved from the convenient proximity of living “in the ‘hood” to being right on the coast, but I still look forward to being together every Thursday morning and I don't think twice about the 45 mile drive it takes to get there!"
Brian is an active member at LifePoint Church in League City, dad to two amazing kiddos, a Captain with the Houston Fire Department at Station # 94 in Webster, and a graduate of West Virginia Wesleyan College with a law degree from the Thurgood Marshall School of Law.
FinD seeks to transform men through Jesus Christ in authentic, weekly fellowship in discipleship.
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I grew up in church. I could count on one hand the amount of Sundays my family missed. From a young age I learned biblical characters and their stories which, instead of inspiring me, terrified me. My immature understanding of God led me to avoid Him. “What if He wanted to use me,” I would often think. Moses, for example, had to live in the wilderness, eat off the ground, never saw the promised land, and worst of all the people of Israel talked bad about him. If I dedicate my life to God, there’s no telling what He’d make me do for Him! Even at a young age I could guarantee God’s will for my life would be contrary to the plans I’d already made for myself.
I had faith in Christ, but I did not live my life for Him. As the youngest child in a modest home, there were countless things that I wanted to change or wish I controlled. When molested by my older cousin, in a situation where I was physically powerless, I vowed to control every aspect of my life that I could.
This insecurity was exacerbated further with a sense of financial powerlessness through the ’08 recession. As a residential broker during the sub-prime mortgage crisis, my father was no longer the breadwinner in the household which put a great deal of financial strain on my parents’ marriage,
eventually ending in divorce. These traumas entrenched my ultra independence as a defense mechanism. I filled voids by joining nearly every activity you could imagine in high school: football, JROTC, math club, tennis, track, honor society, you name it. If it kept me at school where I could avoid
my home life, I got involved in it. I continued to compartmentalize aspects of my life and withdraw from family to the point I went off to college at a random school I had never visited and rarely heard of before applying, in a state I had only been to once.
During the first week of college, I was faced with the tuition bill and the inability to pay it. Understanding the financial struggle my parents were having financing my older brother’s education, I refused to add to the burden. Confronted by another uncontrollable situation, doubt set it in about my worthiness to even attend college coming from the family I’m from, the place where I was born, the education I received prior, etc. I felt like Israelites in the wilderness wondering, “wouldn’t it have been better to just die
where we were, in Egypt?” I recall praying to God in total surrender, proclaiming that I don’t have the answer to every problem faced and that only He could move miraculously in this situation. God indeed
moved miraculously on my behalf, through the form of last-minute donor contributions, scholarships, and student loans, and ultimately undergraduate and graduate degrees from Texas A&M University. I’m reminded of the book of Isaiah chapter 43: 15-19 where God reiterates that He is the same God that has
delivered Israel from all of their past tribulations, but (v. 18-19) “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”
I thank God for my FinD brothers. Discipleship and discipline go hand in hand. I’m grateful to be held accountable and to have God-sent help do deal with the real and honest problems that we all face. I’m so grateful for a space that fosters a true strive for a Christ-like life with the leadership and wisdom of
other men. I’ve gained so much peace after joining, learning how much we have in common and how redeemable our lives are!
My wife told me for for a few years so that I needed to get back in a group of men for some real accountability. I wasn’t sure what my group is going to be like, what kind of man I would be meeting - but I can’t say enough about the men in my group that the Lord put me with. We’ve been meeting for about a year and a half now, and I love getting together with these guys each week. I probably never would’ve formed this particular group of guys if it would have been up to me, but God knew exactly who I needed to be with. He put me with a group of very diverse men that are able to speak into my life in a very clear way, as I speak into theirs. They have been a huge blessing to me, and continue to do so and I know they will be in the coming years. God has created a band of brothers for me to live life and pursue Jesus Christ with!"
“Being part of a fellowship of men dedicated to sincerely and joyfully living out their faith inspires me to be the best version of myself. Witnessing and experiencing authentic love among our men’s small group (The “BOB’s”) is incredibly uplifting and renews my soul. The fellowship facilitates an environment of fun and laughter but also focuses on prayer requests when a brother is heavily burdened. We see ourselves as blessed, only to be a blessing to others.”
Charlie is an active member at St. John Vianney, husband to Veronica, dad to four amazing kiddos, played ball at Texas State and later got a graduate degree from Texas A&M. Interested in getting plugged into a weekly small group of your own? FinD seeks to transform men through Jesus Christ in authentic, weekly fellowship in discipleship. Real Men…Real Discipleship. FinD out more by visiting our website at www.FinDdiscipleship.org or contacting us at info@FinDdiscipleship.org.